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I talk too much.

I think that's the main problem I have.

It's pretty understandable that I do really, since so many people seem to misunderstand everything I say that I want to try to convey clearly and precisely what I mean to avoid any mistakes in the future.

But it always seems to backfire.

And in my attempts to defend or back up what I meant, I come across as arrogant and douchy.

I'm really not. I'm actually a very nice person, and anyone who's met me at a convention knows this. But online... anytime I express my thoughts, problems, issues, etc there's a plethora of adjectives to describe how awful of a person I am. And even the tiniest thing I say echoes across the interwebs.

So maybe I'm trying too hard to defend myself...

Maybe I shouldn't try to interact with my fans?

Maybe I should just... make comics.

Guess it couldn't hurt to try...
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  • Watching: Futurama
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VigilantMeadow Featured By Owner Aug 14, 2012  Student Traditional Artist
I am exactly the same. I can't talk to anyone online. Everything I say is misinterpreted to be some sort of comment against them.
DTJB Featured By Owner Aug 14, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
For some people you have to realize: if they didn't get it the first time, there's no point in explaining it. Or, as my dad put it: people are idiots.
Caelinay Featured By Owner Aug 13, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
I don't think it's your fault that people are misunderstanding you when you express your opinions. As stupid as it may sound, some people are just looking for a reason to be offended and create drama. I actually really enjoy reading all your journals and I love your more opinionated comics, so I hope you don't let it get to you and keep them coming. :)
Asylums-Impulse Featured By Owner Aug 11, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
If someone can't understand what you're trying to say they're the one with the problem, you don't need to please everyone :P
Maplestrip Featured By Owner Aug 10, 2012
If this has to do with that batman comic again (I'll just call it that not to go into any unneccasary detail), than I must say this journal is completely useless. Thus far, pretty much everything I've read of you is briliant in some way. That indeed means you'll get people who don't agree with you, don't understand you, and haters. That's the world we live in. You should feel free to explain anything to them. It can't make things worse, just maybe annoying or perhaps even painfull for you. You could also ignore them, only comment on positive feedback and let other people fight the haters, but thus far, I'd say that isn't at all like you. Don't let the few cloud you're judgement, please...
spock-lover Featured By Owner Aug 6, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
I personally find nothing wrong with your rambling or conversations. I find it interesting...
TheCakeMix Featured By Owner Aug 5, 2012
Or just quit entirely. That'd work too.
SierraLarson Featured By Owner Aug 5, 2012
I say ignore the people saying bad things about you. Whenever a person is popular, they usually get those kinds of people.

:heart: Keep doing what you do.
Kapten-N Featured By Owner Aug 5, 2012
People are stupid. No one should have to appologize to people because they are stupid. It's their stupidity that is the problem and if anyone should appologize or keep their mouths shut it's them.

You keep doing what you do. If the stupid people choose to unwatch you it's probably for the better.
RebbieChan Featured By Owner Aug 3, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
I know exactly how you feel. You can't please everybody, so just be honest and yourself. Some people will like you, some won't...and then haters gonna hate. It's frustrating to feel like no one cares about your opinion or thinks your wrong/rude. I get it a lot and I'm not even popular, so I can't imagine how it must feel when you get it the way you do.
OceanAtEndofTheLane Featured By Owner Aug 3, 2012
I have spoken to you several times outside of DA without any link to my DA account. No criticism, nothing rude, actually all praise really and everytime you've responded with rude replies or suspicious replies. I disagree with some of the things you post, and enjoy others. I like seeing thoughtful debates. I, like you, have been under scrutiny in the past over things I felt insignificant, had people judge me on things I've felt were very biased against me etc etc. I try to be really easy going and understanding when a person comes under "Drama attack". I'm a firm believer that people need to be themselves, but part of being yourself includes bettering yourself and constantly evolving.

Im not going to sit here and patronize you over your choices for your own art. But I will say, I decided to unwatch you because of how you reply to people and the way I have felt you've spoken to me (unknowing it was me) and others. Im not saying this to be all "ha ha ha you suck" or something stupid and immature. Im not even telling you to change. I'm saying it because, if I don't like something, I say my peace and move on. So, there's my peace, I'm moving on, no trolling here. I dont expect you to change because of a person's opinion on the internet. Everyone thinks theyre right, and everyone thinks they're the authority on every topic. But I do hope you'll consider how you come off to people online and spend some time learning better communication. I always feel I have misrepresented myself in the past online, and on the advice of others, I have learned to communicate better, and learned when to just press the "x" button.

Good luck
OceanAtEndofTheLane Featured By Owner Aug 3, 2012
*piece - damn autocorrect
TAILS-FAN1 Featured By Owner Aug 3, 2012
It's the internet. Only listen to the ones who aren't trying to be jerk-faces. I enjoy the comics/issues/topics you create/bring up. I usually understand. I don't see you coming off in a negative way. The ones who hate on you are the ones who should be hated on. (See how they like it....) In all honesty, ignoring the bad ones is the best way to go.
EASMO Featured By Owner Aug 3, 2012
Nah, donīt sweat it. Itīs just that the internet is full of victimists that cannot take a joke and douchebags that need to nitpick and argue about every single detail. One can express a difference in opinion without being arrogant, and you seem to be this, so, donīt listen to the typical complainers.
kimyona123 Featured By Owner Aug 3, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Do what you think is right. Still, I have to say that I actually enjoy your 'rantings', since they're very informative to me and I get informations about things I would've never come across (such as the 'female representation in games'-thing and so on). But to me, it is just your opinion. You have the right to say whatever you like to say, especially when you are supporting your arguments and rantings with informative websites.
If you're going to continue with your journals, I will look forward to them. If not, it is sad, but it is your right to do what you like ;D
rennakid62 Featured By Owner Aug 2, 2012  Hobbyist Artist
Love to be totally honest, I didn't see the comic, and I haven't yet checked to see if it's still up, but this is a major pet peeve of mine..."IF YOU DON'T LIKE IT! DON'T LOOK AT IT!!" and like people have said you have a right to your opinion just like everyone else! Don't stop intracting with us fans! we love it!! not many artist will acknowledge the thoughts of fans and sometimes if a fan gives a light critique they will blast them for their opinion being unnecessary, when they were just trying to help the artist grow. Take the nasty comments, and acknowledge where they're coming from, then grow from that. It's how we learn. I find you to be a really nice guy, who does what he loves and loves what he does! You don't find alot of people like that these days, especially those who are brave enough to explore the Taboo side of topics! So maybe it was too soon, but what can you do, what's done is done, you've apologised for any offensiveness. It's now up to those who were offended to either forgive and move on, or just unwatch you and move on if they can't get past how you express your own thoughts/opinions.
I send my condolences to anyone who witnessed/family/friends of those there when it happened. I have no idea what it must feel like to have that happen! and hope that those who passed may R.I.P.

Keep on, Keeping on Tom!
Paladin343 Featured By Owner Aug 2, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
...The loudest people tend to be the most unpleasant, where the quietest tend to be the approving. Do keep on saying what you want to say, how you want to say it--that's free speech in action.

There will be always those who disagree--there will always be those who are as unpleasant as the first commenter on this journal. But I think the comic in question (this is regarding the Angry Internet Squid, isn't it?) is your opinion and frankly, I've seen what you describe. Maybe it was too soon... but it was a thought you had, and you should be free to express it.

X-Playsomegames Featured By Owner Aug 2, 2012
Lol sometimes I feel like I and only a few people truly understand where Tom is pressing issues at.
dragongirl900 Featured By Owner Aug 1, 2012  Student General Artist
Considering that your fans FAR outnumber people who dislike you it shouldn't be to hard to ignore them.
Ori-J Featured By Owner Aug 1, 2012
No. Yo're entitled to have your own opinion about things and it's no fault of yours that people can't accept that.
What, because you're some kind of famous artist on dA, you have to cater to everyone's needs and opinions? The people who think that are very, VERY wrong. They're purposefully digging pitfalls whilst you're speeding down that path at a 100miles per hour. They're not listening because they're jealous.
You are entitled. Remember that.
Mike-Obee-Lay Featured By Owner Aug 1, 2012
It's funny that a lot of his fans say the same thing, but once they see one of his political comics (like the Chik-fil-A one for example) they start talking about how horrible it is that they have such a view and how they should change it and accept the view of society. What, because they're some kind of famous fast food chain in America, they have to cater to everyones needs and opinions? The people who think that are very, VERY wrong.

So if he can criticize other peoples opinions, he shouldn't really be suprised when people criticize his.
Ori-J Featured By Owner Aug 2, 2012
Did I say I was going to try change anyone's opinions?
Did I say people aren't without flaws?
Did I say Preston was perfect?
Nah, I just said that he's entitled to his own opinion

If we're going to have to mention the Chik-fil-A thing (I hadn't even heard of it until they went anti-gay marriage so publicly) welp, it is kind of outrageous. But yes, they have their own opinions.

And I wouldn't so much as say this is an opinion as a statement of fact, really. Imagine if we hadn't stumbled across each other in this way but either you or I had found the other's gallery. Imagine now that whichever of us had written something like this in a comic and then posted a journal about it. Then no-one would've jumped on it because it would've been some nobody slipping up.

People weren't listening to the message, only seeing this that and the other.

Sorry, but I won't be replying. I've started to hate my inbox because I get attacked when I stand for someone else's opinions. Go attack someone else down the bottom; just because I was the top comment here and I'm very pro-freedom of speech is no reason to go for me, my days. Find someone else who will happily debate, my inbox is too full of silliness as it is. Or, even better, find someone who agrees whole hearetdly with what so-and-so says just because of their followers and pageview count.
Mike-Obee-Lay Featured By Owner Aug 2, 2012
Just to clarify, I wasn't trying to argue with anybody. I was just trying to point out to a sensible sounding person that his political cartoons (while being fine and all) insult or belittle (in some way or another) other peoples opinions. So it should not be a surprise to him that his opinions are also criticized.

I had no idea who you were before I commented. I never noticed you commenting before. And I certainly never meant it to seem like I was attacking you. In fact I thought I was being quite passive in my comment and not being harsh at all.

And I only mentioned Chik-fil-A cause it was his most recent and the easiest one I could remember at the time.

You, of course, don't have to reply to this. I just wanted to clarify (for the record).
Ori-J Featured By Owner Aug 3, 2012
Nah, I'll happily reply, it's just most of the time people get really aggressive with these kinds of conversations and I immediately jump to a defensive reply.
Aaand sorry for accusing so readily; as I said, I jump too quickly to 'defensive counter measures' which always end up accusatory... So apologies on my part
Mike-Obee-Lay Featured By Owner Aug 3, 2012
It's no problem. I completely understand everybody in internet-land always on guard for troll and random attacks... Haha, it's like the internet is still in the dark ages. haha.
Ori-J Featured By Owner Aug 16, 2012
Ha, maybe one day we'll all grow up and won't need to build stone walls and catapults any more :D
Miragician Featured By Owner Aug 1, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
It's fine for him to have his opinion. There's that and then there's expressing it in public inappropriately.
If he had treated the event with some respect and dignity when talking about it, it wouldn't matter at all when he released his comic, so long as he respected the event.
But then he decides to give the comic a chibi style and use the shootings as a tool to talk about his personal woes about entertainment and project them to the Internet. And draw him yelling at a cartoon squid who's supposed to be an in-reference to something nobody cares about to make his point look valid and applicable to everybody. And then he goes and says all he wanted to talk about was entertainment, not even needing the reference at all.
And people are not jealous, they're angry because of how he rudely acts towards them, like apologizing to them but then claiming they were ignorant and "butthurt" and then treating them like dirt for being offended.
Just because he's famous doesn't mean he's qualified to act in a way you wouldn't follow in real life. It doesn't excuse people from thinking about others before making a decision that could affect them, which is a lesson that Preston, like everybody else, needs to learn.
Ori-J Featured By Owner Aug 2, 2012
Well, when you say in public, well... You have a choice to come here or not. To Preston's page, that is... and dA as well, the internet if you assumed I was being quite that broad (lol no). You have a choice to follow him or not. You have a choice to read his comics.

An interesting thing is that people have also been getting on his case about his style not being varied. :shrug: I liked it, it's a nice, diverse new step.
And no, no-one needed to mention it, and yes it was a horrible event. I'm not denying that, but if some lesser known artist had drawn that comic I doubt anyone would've cared. It's a subconscious thing. People try to riddle errors everywhere, it's a fact of human life. We 'have' to judge on things everyday.

As far as I can see he wasn't talking to specific people, they just felt he was.

Did I say that? Did I say because he's famous he's inexcusable? No! Highlight and copy paste, bold it, italics it, send it to me on a silver tray where I said 'he's famous thus inexcusable' please. I think everyone needs to learn this lesson including you, me, Preston, not-Preston, the 'butthurts', the 'notbutthurts', over-zealous fans, people who aren't overzealous fans. Okay? Does that help? Seriously, you're telling me stuff I know.

But if you just change the artist name and icon mentally to some random person, well then... I don't think people would've given much attention to it.

And hey, guess what, if my comment wasn't at the top then I'm convinced it would've been ignored. Just like Preston is quite popular, well, if he hadn't been noticed by the 'swarms of fans' then, he would've been ignored and the person at the top would've been assaulted because they're at the top thus they have to act in this certain way we've all prescribed.

You have a choice to view his stuff, but if you really disagree so much, well, frankly no-one's stopping you from turning away and unfollowing. Only you wanting to read the 'latest outrage' and comment the hell out at the top of your internet lungs, screaming as loud as bold and caps allows anyone to do.

Let's change the situation a bit. Imagine if he was just some random person protesting in the street. The internet is the street, his comics are the slogans he carries. If this was irl then most people would've continued, some would've joined the cause. No-one would've gone up to him with rocks (well, in this country anyways) because freedom of speech. Just because he's famous doesn't mean he's inexcusable, but that doesn't also mean that the swarm can take away his freedom of speech.

That was longer than anticipated. I've said what I want, cba any more replies, soz. I kinda have stuff to do and a life. I don't agree with all of Preston's things, but at least I try to see the points he makes.
Miragician Featured By Owner Aug 2, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Yeah, I choose to read his comics and journals, in fact I was a former fan of SYAC before I got awind of Preston's behavior. But aren't I'm allowed to try to point out the situation of whatever's caused by his behavior?
Anyways, you do realize that "freedom of speech" in the First Amendment was originally conceived in order to allow citizens and the media to criticize the U.S. government, right? It doesn't allow you to say and express anything you want; that's why crimes such as slander and libel exist, that's why you can't shout "bomb" in an airport or curse a crowd with profanity without getting in trouble, and that's why people can't bring up traumatizing events in public inappropriately after the event happened.
And ironically, you're trying to support Preston, who cracked down on people pointing out his insensitive behavior after his apology by blocking them, by saying he's entitled to freedom of speech. Preston's guilty of taking away people's rights to express their criticisms of what he does, yet he insists that he can say anything he wants. How hypocritical is that?
I don't get why anybody believes he is being the victim here, because his caustic responses to simple critiques and attitude towards others and art pretty much brought the onslaught of critics we have today and garnered him widespread infamy among the online art community.
I'm not usually this negative about Preston, but his behavior after the comic was posted and how other people are supporting that as "professional conduct" and posting comments like (word for word) "Totally? Who cares?" about the shootings just really makes me think what is wrong with teenagers' minds nowadays.
Heck, I wouldn't be here typing this if it weren't for Preston's revoking of his apology and acting like an ass to other people. If he'd just given a proper apology and taken the comic down or, better yet, thought about , people would just leave this behind and applaud Preston for improving artistically.
OceanAtEndofTheLane Featured By Owner Aug 3, 2012
I agree with you. Also, we're a community of artists sharing art. We should be able to comment and discuss. The only time I think of the "if you dont like it dont look" argument is when people complain about nudity. There is a button to turn it off so you dont see it. if you dont like it do that lol
Sasukerules1355 Featured By Owner Aug 1, 2012  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I hardly ever comment on your stuff but you have SOOOO many journals explaining an idea you had. Interact with your FANS not the haters. The reason you get so much hate is because you overreact about everything. I read a comic where he made a stereotype joke against his friend. His next comic was a joke about more stereotypes to everyone who thought the comic was offensive. He joked about it, he didnt make contant journals explaining himself.
Sou1Waffle Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2012
Keep expressing yourself. I among many others have tons of respect for those who aren't afraid to say what they think, especially on the internet.
Eqneathewriter Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2012
remember, everyone reads the "voice" of your writtings the way they want it to be, not nessessarly the one that you meant.
also, haters gonna hate :p
mylilwashu Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2012
Take it as a grain of salt and continue with what you like doing. Comics and connecting with fans :)
Veji-chan Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2012  Student Writer
The fans who like and understand you are the most valuable to you. Don't cut them off because some people were too easily offended.
suicidalconsepts Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2012  Hobbyist
Self control. Honestly, I think just reading aloud what you write before you post it clears up most of the problems. Interact, sure, but I am here because of that tumblr thing thats currently going semi-viral. A lot of people are getting a ban first impression because of one incident. Thats bad, really, it's bad. But shutting down interaction wont solve if. Just apologize and try to be better. Just my opinion, i'm not in your shoes.
PhoenixSpartanX Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2012
No! Don't just make comics! You are one of the only artists I've come across who connects and trusts his fans to understand him and the way he does things. You've got the guts to express your opinions, and if people have a problem with that, then forget them. You have plenty of loyal fans who support your work and how you do it.

Keep on truckin'
meggyville2009 Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2012  Hobbyist
If anyone has a problem with your opinions, then it's THEIR problem!
You be awesome and your opinions are yours. Don't get discouraged by what haters and flamers have to say.
Miragician Featured By Owner Aug 1, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Let's use your logic.
"I'm the best person in the world and I'm sick of you being weak like the Twin Towers when they fell!"
"What's that, you say? My opinion's wrong and disrespectful and I'm an egotistical brat? Then it's YOUR problem!"
Stop using 4th grader logic and try to see that doing this sort of thing in public in real life will net you some serious trouble and terrible consequences.
ravensep Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2012  Hobbyist Artist
I do indeed find myself pretty disagreeing with you on the topic you support many times...but its not a problem really (well I actually didn't comment on any of them) because everyone is different.
VampirePumpkins Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2012
For a long time, I always assumed that people on the internet would often misinterpreted things on purpose as a way of trolling, but then I met a girl in real life that really seems not to get subtext. Like many people, I think she might just be parroting things that she hears without actually taking the time to form her own opinion, but that's a big might. It's like she has half the information and thinks she knows the whole picture.

I rather like the fact that you care. You're a sensitive guy and it's frustrating to have your own intentions warped. I think that what a lot of us just want is for people to understand us.
Farin-McNally Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Positive reinforcement rant:

People only take notice of how much they talk when they are met with negative commentary, when your being well recieved you glide right on through conversations without a second thought. Dont let the down side of anything be when you decide to self-evaluate. That's the worst time to look at yourself because you cant see the full picture, only what other people are pointing out. It doesnt matter what they see, only what you see.
Trying to "convey clearly and precisely" will not work all of the time. But the people who really matter will take the time to understand you, and appriciate a sentence for a its worth: only the breath of air or keystrokes it took to say it, and nothing more. Dont let other people's idiocy hurt you. They aren't worth the time, nothing formed souly on opinion and bent to only harm is worth consideration on a personal level.
Further more, do not misconstrue arrogance and confidence. You show a sense of pride in your art and that is not arrogance, nor is giving yourself a pat on theback everyonce in a while, especially in the face of those who are only there to bring you down to their miserable level.
You are no more of a douche than any other average Joe on this planet, and that's just fine! A bit of a silver tongue keeps the mind at ease and the self-esteem off empty at the end of the day.
Dont take a few negative opinions and let that keep you from doing what you enjoy. If you want to talk to your fans then ignore the people who can't even enjoy a good comic and focus on the people who are here to praise you, make good conversation, and play the game of give and take that is a sense of humor.
And for the record: take a look at all the comments you have. You're by far not the only one defending you, THAT should be a big clue right there. If all these complete strangers can defend you, then by God you shouldnt feel ashamed to defend yourself too.

Your fan and supporter,
Farin :heart:
FoxySoulSista Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2012
Keep doing what you're doing, and try not to let the "anonymous" opinions bother you too much. If they're hating on you because of the way you talk, chances are, they'd be hating on you for just about anything else... I for one find your comics both funny and (on a rare occasion) informative

PS. you don't come across as douchey to me :) (save for the occasional situation, but that is to be expected as we are human beings, and differing opinions can cause frictions between two people)
DarkX1122 Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2012
Or just don't let the heat get to you. Sure, if someone says something extraordinarily stupid, that may annoy or hurt. But I'd honestly like to think that other Internet Celebs have haters too. Kevin Bolk does. I'm positive Egoraptor does. I think it's just a matter of being able to brush it off, or just not attach too much to it.
NeverCrit Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2012
andrew- out of everything i've seen you do, this entry is by far the most compelling, the most human.

i encourage you to work with that-- understand that there's improvement to be had in everything.
GreenScenery Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
You seem so nice and smart guy over the internet too. Don't worry about those narrow minded people, kids, trolls, haters.. Internet can be harsh place and because of your popularity, you have to take so much shit on your back and I feel bad for it. You're a person too and you should have your peace. But be strong!! We really believe in you! Share your thoughts if you can, because I and so many others are really interested hearing them and understand you!
You are the best!
Crittercre8r Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2012  Hobbyist Artisan Crafter
I have the same issue in real life. I completely understand what you mean. I have never been offended or felt like you deserved to be called names :(.
ZephyrTheDragonlord Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
i believe that many of the people's statements here are true... you are a talented artist, who seems like he enjoys talking to the people who like his work, of course there will always be the trolls and the ignorant, but that's just as much a part of everyday life as it is on the internet. you should always feel happy to know that at least someone out there likes your work. if you think about it, if people didn't like what you do, would you be anywhere near as well-known?
Superfreexa Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2012
Having talked to you at a con, I know for real that you aren't pretentious or anything. It's just that the internet is open to so much interpretation that people willingly take the wrong end of the stick :L
dragonpixies Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2012  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
The fact that you interact with us is my favorite part about you! Please don't go D:

I think you should try not to stress at the people who don't know how to criticize correctly. Just because they rattle out a stream of capslock swears doesn't mean anything except that they're not great at getting their point across, or they're really misjudging you. Some people just don't like other people for no reason other than calling them names because it seems to affect them. They're called bullies ):<
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